This song resonates. It is just RIGHT.

No secret, I’m a big music fan, always have been, and have never pigeonholed my musical experiences to one artist or genre and remain open to all music from any artist who has the guts to put something out there for the masses. And every now and then, a song comes along that just strikes a chord in me and Colbie Caillat has struck that chord with her new song and video ‘Try’.

As a woman and a mother, I love the message in this song and will play it for my daughter AND my sons (after Raffi and before Sharon, Lois and Bram, of course). And I’ll talk to them about the song and video, so Ms. M starts to learn that she doesn’t have to TRY to look beautiful, she just IS beautiful and worthy and so that my sons learn that girls and women are NOT the way they look, they are not mascara and lipstick, they are full, complete human beings with so much more to offer than a pretty face and that diminishing a girl’s value based on the way she looks causes her pain and makes her suffer unnecessarily. And so that all of my babies can appreciate that we, as people, all have struggles and want to be accepted just the way we are, just the way we look, whether or not we choose to get all gussied up or opt to just keep it real.

“You don’t have to try so hard/ You don’t have to, give it all away/ You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up/ You don’t have to change a single thing,” Caillat sings in the chorus. “Don’t you like you? ‘Cause I like you.”

Take a look and listen for yourself and see what you think. Does the song speak to you?

Five nice’ish things that I done did for OTHERS this week

The other day I blogged about five nice things that I did for myself this week (you can read about that here). But, after publishing, as the hours ticked by, I started second-guessing myself and wondering just now selfish and narcissistic I must be to think that is was important to point out all the great things that I did for MYSELF instead of what I did to try to make things better for OTHERS. Because, really. There must be something that I could put on such a list, mustn’t there?

I'm following Ms. Angelou's wise words on this one and do the best I can do. Until I know better.

I’m following Ms. Angelou’s wise words on this one and do the best I can do. Until I know better.

So, after much thought, agonizing and tears, here it is. My list of the five nice’ish things that I done did for OTHER PEOPLE this week:

1. I showered. Every day. No exceptions. You’re welcome.

2. I didn’t eat beans, broccoli or hard-boiled eggs. The air you have been breathing all week has been of higher and purer quality but for my selfless nutritional sacrifice.

3. I wrote this list. As a way of sharing. Because sharing is good, it makes people happy. Unless you’re sharing bedbugs or herpes. That makes people mad. And sad. And homicidal-rage inducing itchy (or so I hear). But this list of giving, it’s a happy share. You’re welcome. 🙂

4. I did laundry. My family is currently enjoying the bounty of my labour. Clean underwear and socks as far as the can see. Now, you may think this does little for you, but if you’re ever in close proximity to one of my boys’ feet without shoes on, you’d know that the goodness spread via those loads of laundry were further reaching that just my immediate family.

5. I didn’t take a single provocative photograph while telling the bathroom scale to fuck off. No coy duck-faces or headless cleavage shots. No artsy shots of my feet kicking the shit out of the scale. No soaking, sobbing selfies while I bandaged up my toes. No, I saved you all the pain of yet another self-serving story told in filtered selfies and just told you the story. And, if anyone of you is like me (and I seriously doubt it’s the case, but I’m going out on a limb on this), anytime I can hear a story or read something that is not accompanied by a bobble-headed, duck-faced, starved-into-her-bikini-and-in-desperate-need-of-air (and dignity) selfie, I consider it a goddamn Pulitzer prize worthy read.

So please. Don’t ever let anyone ever tell you that I’m not a giver. I give until it hurts. I’m going to go and change my bandages now. Have a great Friday.

Oh, okay. I give. Here's your fucking selfie. Satisfied? I caved.

Oh, okay. I give. Here’s your fucking selfie. Satisfied? I caved.


At This Moment I Am

Tired.  I’m still fighting this flu and right now, it feels like I’m on the losing end.  Neither Mr. KB or I are sleeping very well right now and that’s not helping us get healthy again.  I’d really like to nap right now while my smalls do the same, but I know that I won’t.

…Sad.  Wondering what would drive my son’s friend to hang himself yesterday.  The devastation he has left behind is overwhelming, vast and so, so sad.  I didn’t know the boy well, but he had been to our house a couple of times and just goes to prove once again that appearances can be deceiving and we never really know what is lurking in someone else’s mind.  Depression is a fucker that lies to us and makes us think there is no hope and now this boy’s parents, siblings, girlfriend, and friends have to live with the result of his depression and it’s lies forever.

…Grateful.  That my children and loved ones are safe and sound right now.

…Regretful.  For getting angry at Rigatoni for spilling his rice all over the floor and then being silly about cleaning it up.  Yes, he needed to clean it up, but was it really worth getting angry at him for?  I don’t think so.

 …Hopeful.  That I can shake this headache and feel more human again soon.

…Excited.  To get things done.  Not negating the recent tragedy in Georgina, it’s important for me to remember that there are so many wonderful and positive things in our future and to focus my energy on feeling positive and happy about all of the good things in my life.

Two of our three little kittens. Today they are 10 days old. Butterball is on the left and we haven’t named her brother or sister yet. Putting their picture up today because I really need to find my ‘happy’ right now and for some reason, these kittens are helping me (a life-long non-cat person) do that.  This was taken before they opened their eyes, but all three are up and looking around now 🙂

I got the idea to do a “Right now I am…” post from Kristen over at The Frugal Girl (thanks, Kristen! 🙂 ).  It was a lot of fun writing it out and really did help me to focus myself a little better.  Trying something new, getting myself out of my comfort zone is hard, but so worth it.  I really should remember that!